Or does it? You see, it's just that
when you go off on a raving mad streak with Lupus, you realize that
in addition to being a b**** sometimes, you're also a bit of a drama
queen. Lupus has a way of making other problems seem insignificant.
Then again, the mood that being this sick puts you in can also make
you quite hostile. This all prompts you to rethink your behavior and
try like crazy to come out on the nice side of things.
Hopefully, that is. It's all a bit
confusing for sure.
I've had some bad luck and demeaning
people in my life. Well, OK, I've had more than a little of both. So
much so, that I have gotten in the unfortunate habit of holding my
feelings in while quietly suffering, then letting it out with a bang.
Therefore, I alternate between being the nicest person on the face of
the earth and being a complete and total jerk.
But then, Lupus comes into the picture.
That empathy that I wrote about Lupus giving me, well, it's inspired
me to cut down on those scary episodes. It's taught me to tell people
exactly how I feel. Which admittedly sometimes turns into another
episode. Hey, it's a journey. I'm trying.
Anyway, I've come to this realization
lately, that I can be very critical of people. Oh, you already knew
that? I'm not surprised. I can be pretty opinionated. But I'm
starting to understand that I don't need to hurt people, even if they
hurt me.
Because, guess what? Not everyone has a
chronic illness. Not everyone has been abused or cheated on or lied
to. But we all have our struggles. Pain is not a contest. There's no
way to measure and compare each other's suffering. We've all got
problems. They all make us miserable.
So why not just be nice to people? Why
not try to understand them? Why not go the extra mile even if they're
not doing anything to deserve it? You never know what someone is
feeling or what they are going through. And by the way, we all
deserve a kind word. We all deserve a smile or a hug or at least to
be left alone in times of crisis.
So thanks Lupus. Thanks for encouraging
me to say what I feel in a gentler way, rather than holding it in
until it bursts forth in a spew of obscenities and other nonsense. Or
at least, that's the idea. Wish me luck. It's going to be a long
road.
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