Love for others with Lupus

Lupus is named for the wolf. Those who have it are just as strong. They have to be.

I'm not the only one with Lupus, you know? I do talk about it a lot. Still, there are so many people out there suffering from this crazy, unpredictable disease. It's tragic to say the very least. However, it can also be inspiring. Plus, I get tons of support from my fellow “Lupies” on a daily basis. After all, no one understands chronic illness like those who have it.

I don't have any resentment toward healthy people. In fact, it's just the opposite. I'm so glad to see other people living happy, healthy lives. It gives me great joy. It's just that when it comes to having someone to talk to about my health struggles, nothing beats someone who has been there and done that.

Other Lupies don't suggest unsolicited “cures” or pain solutions. They know Lupus is a permanent condition that's not going away. They just listen and empathize. Which is exactly what I need most of the time. And if I do need advice, they know how to give it without being pushy.

Other Lupies also understand when I'm too tired to do anything but sit and type. They know I'm not lazy because I don't have a “real” job. They understand that writing is my way of continuing to contribute to my household, even if I don't feel so good and never become a big writing superstar. They also get that writing isn't all I do around the house.

I really appreciate my fellow Lupies in another way too. I find them inspiring. In fact, I find anyone with chronic illness inspiring. This world is hard enough on healthy people. Getting through it with style when sick is even more difficult.

Yes, from pain to limited mobility to digestive issues to skin rashes to any one of 25 other crazy symptoms, my fellow Lupies triumph daily over this horrendous illness. I find them amazing. Plus, so many of them are so much sicker than I am. Which makes me believe I can kick this thing with a smile on my face just like they do every day.

So, thanks Lupus, for helping me find so many new, inspiring supportive friends. It's truly one of the best things about this disease.